Small little eyes, fixating their gaze on you and a face that brings joy to your face is snuggling in your arms to take warmth. Best feeling ever isn’t it? This is the first way your newborn is connecting with you on a physical level. As they grow their way of expression changes. They have their own individual personalities and their own world. In this world, they value their parents the most. All the new daddies and mommies these are a few parenting tips through which you can have a healthy relationship with your kid.
You love your little ones to no extent. However, you will have to take some steps to connect with your kids. Patience is the key and you need to fit yourself in the tiny little shoes of your kid.
So, we bring to you 8 parenting tips which will enhance your relationship with your children.
Reading stories for a healthy relationship
Reading stories to your child at night helps in enhancing the parent child bond, a study has found.This is one of the best ways to interact with your child.
Interestingly, you can carry this out until your child reaches the age of 12! When you read words to your child, they listen to words and pronunciations in a familiar voice that they love. Research based on child psychologists proves that listening is one of the most important skills to start building a strong language foundation, kids first listen to words and later when they start going to school and learn to read the words and letters, it becomes easier for them to identify these words and sounds that have already listened at home. Children who are exposed to a lot of listening and conversations at home end up developing a strong vocabulary and language mastery lifelong. This ritual if practiced every day can help you and your child form a strong emotional connection with each other.
Physical connection with your kids
A research says that a child needs at least 12 hugs a day from adults and friends. It makes them feel loved and wanted and raises the child’s self esteem. Your children need your affection the most. So do not shy away from hugging them as many times as you want. Adding a few more hugs to that would certainly not do any harm! The warmth they receive from you not only makes their day but makes your day happy too! Hugging is the way you and your child grow closer to each other. It also paves the way for a healthy relationship with your child.
Eating meals together
Try and have as many meals together as possible with your child and with all members of the family if possible. Quality family time is important for having a healthy family atmosphere. During meals you can interact with your kids and ask them questions related to food.
You can tell them about the meal they are having and stitch up a conversation at the dinner table. Kids love it when you ask them what color the food is or what vegetable is this? You will be able to connect with your kid and are always aware about their likes and dislikes. Start sharing about your day with your child, they are interested to know how did the day go for you , what special things are happening in your life, these flowing conversations will enhance your child’s understanding of you and will also open the child to share their experiences with you. This helps you to understand what your child is going through as its an informal environment on the dinner table. Having meals together will also help the child realize the importance of family and bonds and they always are with you .C
Speak in the language of your children & hear them out.
Your kids want your attention. Give it to them. They want to talk to you about their new toys, what happened in school and everything in their day. Ask them in detail. You can ask them why they like that particular cartoon character, what lunch they had in school.This is a conversation starter.
You need to communicate with your child, understand and respect their feelings. Show keen interest in their toys and when they are telling you something about their school. Probe and interact, make them laugh. This makes the child aware that you care about them. An example of a boring question is this “ How was your day?”. Your child will say single word and leave it.
Instead try these questions “ What did your friend bring for lunch?”, “Was the class very hot today?”,“ Was your teacher wearing a red dress, today?”. Try these at home and it’s a sure shot conversation starter and also a great brain exercise for your child to think about school, jog their memories and re tell their experiences with you. This improves your bond with your child and enhances the parent child relationship. In simple words, speaking in the language of your child means communicating effectively with your child and understanding their needs.
Look in the mirror and play with them
Kids love mirrors and do many actions playfully. So go join them! Make funny faces, hoot at each other and dance together all facing the mirror. This is definitely going to be funny and your child is going to enjoy every moment of this. Get innovative in this and try it out! You can ever plan a mirror party, you and your child could enact some famous character or cartoon in the mirror. Want some ideas? Try imitating “Talking Tom” in the mirror.
Go out somewhere nice
Along with your physical connection, emotional connection is also necessary. Take your kids to some nearby places. Hold their hands and walk with them. It could be a walk in a park or a market. Show them around, answer to their curiosities. These short trips can be exploratory events for your kids. This way the kids learn. They would be eager and excited to go out with you. Answer their questions and ask them more!
Share a personal story
We know kids like listening to stories. They are even more attentive and excited when it is about their Mumma or Papa. Tell them some incidents from your childhood. Your experiences when you were of their age. Narrate them to your kids. Some funny experiences of yours or the feats you achieved in your childhood. Children are always eager to know more about you. Give it to them. Share freely. This indulgence also makes your bond grow closer.
Show your affection
You can shower your affection in many simple ways. You can take their hands in your palms while washing hands. It is a simple yet a very cute way to show your affection. Kids love this; they giggle about it and remember it too. They will be ready at the basin waiting for you every day. You can use this opportunity to teach them about water and how to use the tap so that water is not wasted. You can talk about conservation and the environment and go deeper into the subject as much as your child shows interest. These are small triggers to kick start deep knowledge sessions for your child that will build your child’s knowledge on various topics.
Well try out these parenting tips all the new moms and dads and we are sure it’ll work wonders! Become their good friend and find joy in every small thing that you and your child experience. Happy Parenting!